Friday, August 25, 2006
Wednesday, August 16, 2006
The Great Indian Divide - Kabhi Alvida Na Kehna
KANK might bomb at the box office because of it's unconventional story and ending. However it has suceeded in starting a debate over moralities. Below is a very good example of that. This is a chat I had with my friend who hails from the Hindi heartland and has "traditional Indian values". The below text demonstrates the disparity of thoughts between India and Bharat.
Me: tumhara sametime thik ho gaya
My Friend: ya,it has been always rigth.
Me: hmm
Me: tum bhi kal gaye the KANK dekhne?
My Friend: yes
Me: pasand aayi?
My Friend: ok,but for me resuts are not acceptable.
Me: results? tumne koi exam bhi di thi kya!!
My Friend: mean movie should not be ended that way.
Me: then which way shud it hv ended?
My Friend: I do not know,but they should not present rani and and sharukas heros.
My Friend: see,two homes were destroyed,big b died still that kind ofending ,not acceptable.
Me: par yaar, agar woh bandi kisi aur se pyaar karti hai and even the guy loves her, whats the use of staying in such a relationship where both were not happy
Me: i totally agree that it wasnt convincing at all that why rani wudlove shahrukh and not abhisheik but i feel sometimes u just cant say what might attract someone
My Friend: do you think ,a man who had 5-year old son,prefer to go for aanother women,because his wife is more sucessful thn him ,right?
Me: thats true that the guy was jealous of his wife and that was onereason why he was unhappy but again even his wife didnt try to adjust withhim. even for her , her career came first and rightly so. But u know itactually happens that way manyatimes.....i agree shahrukh wasnt the herobut he could rather be called the protagonist
My Friend: and a women rani who killed her father by her shamefullbehavior,broke two home had right to go for another married man onlybecause abhishek wants the things,that she should do.
Me: ok....see i m sure even rani's character(maya) didnt want to kill BigB....u see sometimes we do somethings not realising what the consequencemight be...maybe our intentions are not bad, its just that we are notclever enough
My Friend: after marrage why rani was thinking of other man.she need to search her love in her husband it self,and here abhishek was a goodhusband.
Me: hmm...what you say is correct according to our indian values...andmay also be practical.....but practicality doesnt hold good in true lifesometimes
My Friend: true life???? the situation shown in movie is not justified.
Me: so what do you say abhisheik should have done with Rani?
My Friend: abhisheik need to send her in mental hospital.
Me: :) mental hospital? why?My Friend: she was crying without any reason .
Me: ya thst true, she cried a bit too much
Me: but wat about shahrukh, shouldn't he also be sent to mental hospitalthen?
My Friend: ya sharuk was also a bad man,and that is what I am telling you cannot present them as heros.
Me: so you think only bad people can love outside their marriages?
My Friend: tell me name of one person who wants to became like sharuk and rani.
Me: obviously no one would want to break their marriages, they didnt too
My Friend: so they are not the heros of this film.
My Friend: and they should suffer.
Me: but you see the point remains , what would you do if you are stuck with a bad marriage, continue with it only because it is traditionally wrong to break your marriage?
My Friend: ya,ofcourse you could break your marrage,but you should haveappropiate reason for them.
Me: and you feel the reason shown in this movie was not appropriate?
My Friend: ya
My Friend: that is why we do not want to follow them
Me: so if shahrukh had not falln in love with rani and divorced preitywould that be justified?
My Friend: do you think ,a men who had 5-year old son,prefer to go for aanother women,because his wife is more sucessful thn him ,is right?
Me: you are repeating your question:-)
My Friend: ok,
Me: you didn't answer my question
My Friend: ya
My Friend: answering
My Friend: again what is the reason for your divorse,is it sufficient toleave your family because your wife is earing more.
Me: it is not that simple, she was earning more, she didnt have time forthe family and they were not compatible.......all this lead to hisaffair....
My Friend: if shahruk was feeling shame in taking care of his son,ya heshould go for divorse.
Me: so your final verdict is that these two are bad people and should bethrown out of society for what they did?
My Friend: they are bad ,but no need to thrown out of society for whatthey did.but they should realished that they were wrong.
Me: you know...i feel they are not bad people, it is just that they madewrong choices in life
My Friend: not wrong choices,they do not have rigth to do so.
Me: who are we to detrmine what is right for someone else?
My Friend: your right ends,where other ones is started.
And the "discussion" goes on...
Me: tumhara sametime thik ho gaya
My Friend: ya,it has been always rigth.
Me: hmm
Me: tum bhi kal gaye the KANK dekhne?
My Friend: yes
Me: pasand aayi?
My Friend: ok,but for me resuts are not acceptable.
Me: results? tumne koi exam bhi di thi kya!!
My Friend: mean movie should not be ended that way.
Me: then which way shud it hv ended?
My Friend: I do not know,but they should not present rani and and sharukas heros.
My Friend: see,two homes were destroyed,big b died still that kind ofending ,not acceptable.
Me: par yaar, agar woh bandi kisi aur se pyaar karti hai and even the guy loves her, whats the use of staying in such a relationship where both were not happy
Me: i totally agree that it wasnt convincing at all that why rani wudlove shahrukh and not abhisheik but i feel sometimes u just cant say what might attract someone
My Friend: do you think ,a man who had 5-year old son,prefer to go for aanother women,because his wife is more sucessful thn him ,right?
Me: thats true that the guy was jealous of his wife and that was onereason why he was unhappy but again even his wife didnt try to adjust withhim. even for her , her career came first and rightly so. But u know itactually happens that way manyatimes.....i agree shahrukh wasnt the herobut he could rather be called the protagonist
My Friend: and a women rani who killed her father by her shamefullbehavior,broke two home had right to go for another married man onlybecause abhishek wants the things,that she should do.
Me: ok....see i m sure even rani's character(maya) didnt want to kill BigB....u see sometimes we do somethings not realising what the consequencemight be...maybe our intentions are not bad, its just that we are notclever enough
My Friend: after marrage why rani was thinking of other man.she need to search her love in her husband it self,and here abhishek was a goodhusband.
Me: hmm...what you say is correct according to our indian values...andmay also be practical.....but practicality doesnt hold good in true lifesometimes
My Friend: true life???? the situation shown in movie is not justified.
Me: so what do you say abhisheik should have done with Rani?
My Friend: abhisheik need to send her in mental hospital.
Me: :) mental hospital? why?My Friend: she was crying without any reason .
Me: ya thst true, she cried a bit too much
Me: but wat about shahrukh, shouldn't he also be sent to mental hospitalthen?
My Friend: ya sharuk was also a bad man,and that is what I am telling you cannot present them as heros.
Me: so you think only bad people can love outside their marriages?
My Friend: tell me name of one person who wants to became like sharuk and rani.
Me: obviously no one would want to break their marriages, they didnt too
My Friend: so they are not the heros of this film.
My Friend: and they should suffer.
Me: but you see the point remains , what would you do if you are stuck with a bad marriage, continue with it only because it is traditionally wrong to break your marriage?
My Friend: ya,ofcourse you could break your marrage,but you should haveappropiate reason for them.
Me: and you feel the reason shown in this movie was not appropriate?
My Friend: ya
My Friend: that is why we do not want to follow them
Me: so if shahrukh had not falln in love with rani and divorced preitywould that be justified?
My Friend: do you think ,a men who had 5-year old son,prefer to go for aanother women,because his wife is more sucessful thn him ,is right?
Me: you are repeating your question:-)
My Friend: ok,
Me: you didn't answer my question
My Friend: ya
My Friend: answering
My Friend: again what is the reason for your divorse,is it sufficient toleave your family because your wife is earing more.
Me: it is not that simple, she was earning more, she didnt have time forthe family and they were not compatible.......all this lead to hisaffair....
My Friend: if shahruk was feeling shame in taking care of his son,ya heshould go for divorse.
Me: so your final verdict is that these two are bad people and should bethrown out of society for what they did?
My Friend: they are bad ,but no need to thrown out of society for whatthey did.but they should realished that they were wrong.
Me: you know...i feel they are not bad people, it is just that they madewrong choices in life
My Friend: not wrong choices,they do not have rigth to do so.
Me: who are we to detrmine what is right for someone else?
My Friend: your right ends,where other ones is started.
And the "discussion" goes on...
Tuesday, August 01, 2006
My First Book
Writing a book is one of the most creative activities that one can do. It provides an outlet for thoughts and ideas hidden in one’s mind. Since past couple of years I wanted to write a book. As a matter of fact, I did start writing it. Unfortunately due to lack of time I haven’t been able to complete it yet. I have named it “Changing Times”.
During my engineering studies the Indian economy wasn’t going great guns like it is today. Getting a job was tough; this created lot of uncertainty in my mind. After graduation I had to make a critical decision, whether to take a job at a call center or pursue higher studies in Advanced Computing. It was a tough one but I am glad I made the right decision. I opted to study further and landed up with a good job.
The experiences I had at my first job will remain with me for life. I was introduced to the corporate culture. This culture was new to me and there were many instances when I felt like a vulnerable novice. In many ways it has made me the person I am today. Although I learnt a lot technically, my book will be dedicated to what I learnt about people and their circumstances. Circumstances change and they change people along with them. This will be the underlying theme of my book. Manyatimes one may feel helpless at the turn of events and that is when you realize that it is better to change before time demands you to change.
Through this book I would like to share my experiences. Experiences of surprise, delusion, happiness, failure and success. The sinking feeling of betrayal and the exhilarating feeling of victory. The art to keep a secret and the art to get one out. The importance to have knowledge of happenings around and consequences of not knowing them. Experiences that taught me how to change time rather than changing along with it.
During my engineering studies the Indian economy wasn’t going great guns like it is today. Getting a job was tough; this created lot of uncertainty in my mind. After graduation I had to make a critical decision, whether to take a job at a call center or pursue higher studies in Advanced Computing. It was a tough one but I am glad I made the right decision. I opted to study further and landed up with a good job.
The experiences I had at my first job will remain with me for life. I was introduced to the corporate culture. This culture was new to me and there were many instances when I felt like a vulnerable novice. In many ways it has made me the person I am today. Although I learnt a lot technically, my book will be dedicated to what I learnt about people and their circumstances. Circumstances change and they change people along with them. This will be the underlying theme of my book. Manyatimes one may feel helpless at the turn of events and that is when you realize that it is better to change before time demands you to change.
Through this book I would like to share my experiences. Experiences of surprise, delusion, happiness, failure and success. The sinking feeling of betrayal and the exhilarating feeling of victory. The art to keep a secret and the art to get one out. The importance to have knowledge of happenings around and consequences of not knowing them. Experiences that taught me how to change time rather than changing along with it.
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