Secrets

There are two issues here:
Why do we need to keep secrets from others?Why can't others, especially your trusted friends keep secrets to themselves?
The former is an open question subject to change from person to person.However the latter is one whose results show amazing consistency. The consistency with which most of my friends have failed me. From the good ones to the best.When a person whom I don't know that well or I don't rely on too much spills the beans, I don't feel so bad. However, when it comes to my close friends, that really hurts. I can often not forgive them for years, call it weakness or a grudge. I do like keeping somethings restricted to a very small circle of people.
Initially I was very biased against the weaker sex. Although one of my closest and most trusted confidant is a lady, who has never failed me till date, I always generalised that women have a loose tongue.I was WRONG!!! Believe me, we are as bad as the women. When it comes to gossip, men have equal if not more achievements than women.
I may still forget the wound of betrayal if people accept their mistakes with a straight face.But there are some who will apologise and still say "I had no idea you wanted me to keep this to myself,but if I have hurt you, I am sorry" This is really iirritating, what in Hindi is called "Ek to chori uske upar seena zori". And then there are some innocent ones who say "I didn't mean to say it that way, it's just that he/she understood it that way".Wow, these people should start teaching telepathy. Did you guys get a degree in reading between the lines?
Fed up of betrayals I keep telling myself, trust no one but you. I wish I could follow what my mind says.